So you are a college student... yay! This is one of the best times of your life, enjoy it. The hardest part about college though are the summers apart. You are so accustomed to seeing your friends everyday and now some of them are across the country. No worries, your friendships will resume when you get back to school. However, here are the types of friends that you will encounter when you leave college. Do you have these?
1. The nonexistent friend: You guys shared so many memories at school and talked everyday. But when you got home this friend became a ghost, no where to be found. They probably are reconnecting with their old life. How to deal: Give them their space. Every few weeks send them a text or post on their wall about how much you miss them and something you shared together. That way they remember that you exist and things will be normal when you get back to school. Plus, think of all the stories!
2. The stuck in college mode friend: This friend is always "with you". Skyping, twitter, Facebook, you name it, he/she is on it. Be patient with this person, they obviously miss you! Make sure to send similar emotions back unless you want them to be mad at you! Trust me, been there done that.
3. The fade away friend: You guys talked in the beginning of the summer nonstop. But now they seem to be less interested in your conversations. It is hard to not be mad at this person, they probably do not know that they are "avoiding" you. Give them space. Soon enough they will miss you and come crawling back. Do not try to reconnect too soon, you will just be hurting yourself(currently this is what I am going through, trust me it is not fun).
4. The Meetup friend: This person has the balance between school and home down pat. They will schedule monthly(or so) meetings with their friends to reconnect. When they are not doing this they are building on their relationships at home. This person will be the happiest over the summer, unless they are confronted by a person1 or person3 who will drive them crazy.
The most important thing about summer is to remember that it is your time to relax. Don't take anything too personally, no one is in their right mind most of the time. Focus on improving yourself, but make the effort to reach out to your friends every once and a while. They will appreciate it and you will too.
Good luck and may the summer bring you good friendships and happy times!
xoME
3. The fade away friend: You guys talked in the beginning of the summer nonstop. But now they seem to be less interested in your conversations. It is hard to not be mad at this person, they probably do not know that they are "avoiding" you. Give them space. Soon enough they will miss you and come crawling back. Do not try to reconnect too soon, you will just be hurting yourself(currently this is what I am going through, trust me it is not fun).
4. The Meetup friend: This person has the balance between school and home down pat. They will schedule monthly(or so) meetings with their friends to reconnect. When they are not doing this they are building on their relationships at home. This person will be the happiest over the summer, unless they are confronted by a person1 or person3 who will drive them crazy.
The most important thing about summer is to remember that it is your time to relax. Don't take anything too personally, no one is in their right mind most of the time. Focus on improving yourself, but make the effort to reach out to your friends every once and a while. They will appreciate it and you will too.
Good luck and may the summer bring you good friendships and happy times!
xoME
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